As an African-American woman, I sympathize greatly with the plight of Black men in America.
The most troubling issue for me is the slanted press and stereotypes Black men endure, resulting in them carrying a skewed reputation of being violent, lazy criminals everywhere they go.
You can be close to, spend time with, and enjoy the company of your Black male friends, but there may be a chance that the best person for you may walk right by you simply because you have been using your eyes and not your heart to find the right person. Especially His Mother You should have complete respect for African-American men's families, particularly the matriarchs.
Picking a fight, being inflexible, and causing drama at a family gathering will earn you quick excommunication.
Figuring out what is going on in a guy’s mind in the first few weeks of dating would really help a woman feel more assured, knowing that she is in control of the situation.
Here are a few tips to get you moving in the right direction.
I personally have a number of Black male family members and friends who have never been to jail, have college degrees, and are good fathers.
Because of this knowledge (and my general affinity for being a tolerant and realistic human being), I believe Black men deserve the utmost respect in relationships, just like anyone else.It’s been a great night of drinks, dinner, and conversation, but the evening is coming to a close as the bill is finally brought to the table.Questions start to flood your mind: Do I offer to pay?Be Financially Independent Black men tend to receive a lot of messages from the media and the world that women want them for sex and money.If you step up to him and immediately start talking about material things, he's going to put you in a certain category and not take you seriously.Don't Accept Disrespect And Misogyny If you do decide to be with a man who considers himself a "thug," treat him as an individual, but consider his behavior and words towards you.