Some highlights of the book for me were the sections that addressed the importance of a solid base of friendship in dating relationships, the warnings of premature commitment and over-involvement (in other words, “too much, too fast”), and the admonishment to live out relationships in the context of community, as opposed to isolation.I also liked that the authors addressed respect and disrespect thoroughly, as how we treat one another, confront one another, value one another’s experiences, and listen to one another’s opinions are key to any healthy relationship.
Cloud and Townsend also discuss sexual boundaries, conflict, risk, romance, unresolved family problems and their impact on dating relationships, and other essential topics.
“Dating right side up,” an exhortation to fit our dating life into our spiritual life (not vice versa) was another highlight for me.
Despite over a decade of prayer, a proper attitude toward the commitment and responsibility of marriage, and realistic expectations, it just hasn’t happened. But, at the same time, in this long season of singleness, I’ve had a lot of time to think and pray about these things.
I’ve wrestled with what I believe about dating, its purpose, and whether or not it’s good for me to date (with proper boundaries, of course!
The authors remind the readers that we ought to “bring dating before God and ask for his guidance.
After all, the One who designed emotional connections knows best how they are best conducted, in a way that is satisfying for us and glorifying to him.” They also pose the all-important question young adults need to honestly ask themselves: “Does [the dating relationship] bring you closer to God, or push you further away?
Written by the authors of the best-selling book Boundaries, this book can help you enjoy the kind of smart, rewarding dating that can take you from weekends alone to a lifetime with the soul mate you've longed for. This book gives a healthy, helpful perspective to people in the dating phase of life.
It equips its readers to approach dating in a godly way that is both empowering and reassuring.
I’m that girl who reads almost every relationship book on the Christian market. I’m that girl who loves Jesus, and fervently desires to get married, have children, and continue to serve in ministry for the rest of my days.