Don’t sit around waiting for a boy to make you a priority, communicate his intentions, or even call you on the phone. And this God created and rules his world, including men, women, the biological compulsions that bind them together, and the institution that declares their union and keeps it sacred and safe.
It was not an oversight on the part of the God of all history, as if he couldn’t see into the 21st century.
The qualifications are wonderfully clear and simple: 1) they must believe your God (2 Corinthians ) and 2) they must be of the opposite sex (Genesis –24; Matthew 19:4–6; Ephesians –32).
Here are (some) principles for your not-yet marriages.
It’s not nearly a comprehensive or exhaustive list.
If Christian dating, the intentional, selfless, and prayerful process of pursuing marriage, sounds like slavery, we don’t get it.
If low-commitment sexual promiscuity sounds like freedom, we don’t get it.
Now undeniably there will be more involved in your discernment while dating.
Apart from questions of attraction and chemistry, which are not insignificant, the Bible articulates some roles for wives and husbands.
Those who recklessly give themselves to a love-life of dating without really dating, of romantic rendezvouses without Christ and commitment, are settling. With this “more,” we can say to the watching world, don’t settle for artificial and thin loyalty, affection, security, and sexual experimentation when God intends and promises so much more through a Christian union.
They’re settling for less than God intended and less than he made possible by sending his Son to rescue and repurpose our lives, including our love-lives, for something more. And a Christian union can only be found through Christian dating.
Online dating sites have taken off since the beginning of the 21st century.