Chances are he’s still reeling from the shock of his failed marriage to even begin to think about the possibility of going down that road again. But like all relationships that you might hope turn into a long-term commitment, take your time getting to know him.Ask important questions–the cause of the breakup in the first place– so you can make informed decisions on how you’d like to proceed.
You Can’t Just Think About “Me” The problem with separated men is that they want to date because they’re tired of being alone and unhappy and want some hope after the pain of divorce. But as I discuss in , many may not consider what they have to offer a woman.
They don’t realize that women don’t want a guy who can’t give her what she needs, who drags her into his divorce by complaining about it, who subjects her to the anger and jealousy of his ex.
While most divorces can be sad, nasty and drawn out, others can be quick and painless.
But often times there’s a grey area where both parties know the relationship has run its course and are ready to move on, but they have to figure out how to divide custody of the kids and shared assets.
However, even if you play out many different scenarios in your head, you still will not be fully informed on your situation and how you should proceed.
Like any other matter of the heart, your gut is your best tool to use when trying to decide if dating someone who is separated is worth it.
Guys who can do this have more successful relationships during divorce and avoid bringing more drama into their lives.
A couple of days ago a friend and I were discussing another mutual friend–we’ll call her “Roslyn”–who was going through a divorce.
One was simply not emotionally ready to move on, while the other informed me after five months of dating that he was going to go back and give it another shot with his wife–only for them to end up divorced anyway. So, until a man was totally free and wasn’t involved with any other women that could claim him as her husband, I stayed away.