My friend Onna said something to me the other day that blew me away, so I wrote it down.
Onna’s 39 and has been through tons of ups and downs with men since I’ve known her.
She’s a tough woman – whip smart, driven, opinionated – with a very clear idea about how the world should work.
After one week of working together, she wanted to quit. I reminded her why she came to me in the first place.
Once you make the decision to stop being lonely and start being vulnerable and authentic, everything comes a lot easier.
The best example I have at my access is a new client in her early 60’s.
Back to you, Lynn, because you want to know if there’s a chance in hell that you’re going to be able to turn this ship around before it’s too late. Because as much as we proclaim things like “I can’t help how I feel”, at the end of the day, love is a choice.
A choice that we make every day and with every interaction.
It just might mean letting go of your idea of how it’s supposed to look, and discovering how amazing life can be when you find a partner whose greatest trait isn’t his square jaw, tireless ambition, or brilliant writing skills, but, rather, his desire to love you unconditionally, despite your flaws. I totally believe ANYONE can change – but only when they are ready. While going through the divorce, my kids were really angry at me. Because their father was telling them the reason we were divorcing is because I was manipulative and controlling.
He didn’t tell them it was because he was having sex with someone else. When they accused me of being manipulative and controlling, I stood silent because it seemed better to take that than to hurt my kids with the truth.
Men try to hold onto the hot, charismatic woman who makes his life a living hell.
Women try to hold onto the hot, charismatic man who will never commit.
This was something that she’d been avoiding for her entire life – finding a man who made her feel heard, understood and safe.