She’s geeky to her Joss-Whedon-loving core, a Whovian, Vertigo-reading, 3rd edition D&D (none of that 4th ed crap thank you very much) gamer with the con stories to prove it.While it’s true that many men will use it as a polite dodge to avoid saying “I’m not attracted to you”, when it comes up over and over again, it’s a sign that maybe there’s more to it.And they will not be discouraged by those who are offended by their success.
Olivia Munn may be a geek , but how is average Joe Nerd supposed to compete with the celebrities she meets on a daily basis?
If a woman keeps hearing from men that she’s “intimidating”, what is she supposed to do – besides start approaching men who have more self-confidence and fewer issues?
Your instinctive response may be to play down your looks, and while this can work – there’s a reason why the “beautiful-after-all” trope exists; everyone likes the idea of the librarian who’s secretly model-gorgeous – it’s ultimately putting the responsibility on you.
Instead, make a point of being approachable and friendly.
We all have in our group of friends one or more persons whom we describe as strong or “intimidating” persons.
Even if you like them or not, you have to know that strong personality types have a different view about the world compared with other people.
“It seems that the harder I work, the luckier I get.” This quote is embraced by strong people who are able to create opportunity for themselves without any help.
Their dedicated work ethic creates opportunity, and their courage motivates them to take advantage of it.
And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy.