And do not cancel any of these fun, meaningful activities just because he calls and wants to see you.
guys after Craig and let me tell you, whenever I’ve been overly available I went through that same cycle.
They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
If this is true, those men in the white coats should have been on me like white on rice. I had a very needy mindset and I derived way too much of my self-worth from how men responded to be. (To know what it does look like, check out this article: 10 Things Confident People Do Differently in Dating and Relationships.) It took a long time to realize I needed to stop prioritizing guys above myself, at least until he started treating like a priority.
When you are overly accommodating to him then he doesn’t feel a real push or motivation to step up and invest in you. You know you can get to it at any time so you don’t really feel an urgency.
When I eventually met up with Craig at the bar, the first thing he said after our friendly hellos and my apology for changing things around last minute was: “I like that you didn’t cancel on your friends.
It shows a lot about you and made me even more excited to see you.” I was off to a great start, but that didn’t last.
When you are this person, you won’t have to “play games” and will naturally activate a man’s natural desire to pursue.
Since you are living your life and aren’t relying on his approval to make you happy, he automatically steps up and tries to carve space for himself in your life.
You’re the prize, you’re the catch, you’re the most amazing girl to ever give him the time of day, your time is precious and he will do whatever he has to in order to make sure he gets to stay in your charmed world.
I hope this sheds some light on the whole game conundrum.
So yes you want men to pursue you, and if you are confident this will naturally happen, but you don’t want to intentionally get him to chase you because this is just neediness all dressed up.