Over the course of several months of online dating, I discovered that the pool of available older women is vast and diverse (as is true of men, although perhaps to a lesser extent) and that with a little effort, a reasonably intelligent, halfway-presentable person can usually generate some interest on dating websites. We’ve survived death and divorce, raised families, managed careers and built support networks of family and friends.
And even though procreation is off the table, I picked up clear signals from the women I met online that the meter is running, so it’s best to get on with things.
So as you can see, something that started so light, quickly developed into something far more important than I'd ever imagined.
Given where we are now and all that we've been through in a very short time, it's hard not to fall into old patterns and think about societal pressures and rules and being a serious adult in a serious relationship, because these are all things we're told we should be thinking about.
“Fast Freddy ‘55” may think his bad-boy behavior is secretly a turn-on for women, but he’s deceiving himself.
The majority of women I spoke with said they refuse to acknowledge crude come-ons.
This explains why several ladies in northern Wisconsin sent inquiries despite my stated intent to remain within metro Chicago for dating.
Since pictures are so important to your online profile, here are a few tips: Your profile needs at least one picture to get you in the game.For instance, does “loves sports” mean you’re up for cross-country skiing and white-water rafting, or is it a declaration that every weekend is devoted to channel-surfing the pro and college games? Potential dates skimming your profile are more likely to respond to specifics.Believe me, it’s a much better strategy than scheduling a coffee date and finding you have little or nothing in common.Fortunately, most dating sites today are pretty well regulated, and the option usually exists to report inappropriate postings.And guys, before sending a message with even a hint of sexual innuendo, think about what your mother would say, then remember that many of these women mothers, for that matter. Share your story About a year ago, and one too many dates later, I adopted this laissez-faire attitude myself. We had some fun chats with some weird banter about hobbits, with little promise of real-life banter about hobbits, because that's what online dating is like. And I think it's when we do this, when we're not trying too hard or thinking too much or over-analyzing every text and word exchanged, that we really open our hearts and our minds and are able to let someone embrace us for who we are, rather than for the awesomely charming and funny person we're trying to portray in our online profiles.