So, the question becomes, will he be this same person in 2 years from now? I truly understand that feeling unhappy and trapped in a marriage can lead to vulnerability and looking for happiness through cheating.
I don’t approve or disapprove because every situation is different and I’m not there.
11 years of jokes just made me tired and very vulnerable. First of all, hearing how your husband treated you makes me very sad for you. I could write an entire blog about how men and women have the tendency to repeat the patterns of their parents—some realizing it and some not, some willing to get the help they need to be different than their parent’s bad behavior, and some swearing they’ll never act that way and then do.
As I’ve said before, there’s a difference between being ready to date and being ready for a relationship.
Women have a right to be wary if you just want to date for three months and move on.
We went to counseling for many months prior to the separation and it didn’t work.
I agreed to 3 years legal separation, so that she could get my health insurance, and then the divorce would be decreed.
If you really are as over your ex as you say, then the way you discuss her and your marriage will indicate that.
Current situation is separated I like to be out & about visiting different places. Movies, reading, shopping, eating out, dog walking. Every day is different & that I get to travel & meet lots of ...
However, I have to point out to women reading this and nodding that in ANY relationship, you CAN’T know after date 1, month 1 or month 3 that you’re destined to spend forever together. However, if you discover through the process of dating, that in fact, you’re just looking to have fun for a little while, make sure you don’t allow any woman to invest too deeply in you.
That’s the risky part of making yourself vulnerable, even though you know, full well, that 99% of relationships that get started don’t end up at the altar. Or go out of your way to find a woman who is recently separated or divorced, just like you. Just be totally upfront about where you are emotionally, and let her decide.
I filed with the court a legal separation and divorce decree at the same time.