We all age, and as we age our bodies and desires change.
Certainly go ahead and bring up those lifestyle choices. We may want to discuss shared interests, politics, spirituality, and other topics, before diving into intimacy discussions.
We are both in a different phase of life than when we may have dated before.
Besides, who knows what sort of new, unexpected things you might learn about yourself and your own desire.
This attitude that women should be younger than the man they are with, alongside being ableist, ageist, and fatphobic, is rooted in the underlying assumption still lingering for men my age that part of the reason why women are here on earth is for a man’s pleasure — so she needs to fit into his standards of desirability.
For example, one of the biggest areas of programming is the misogynistic idea that a woman’s appearance is her defining power, and that women must compete against each other in a sort-of underlying appearance competition.
While this idea unfortunately remains in TV programs, music videos, print and media advertisements, and so on till this day, I often feel like women my age struggle with this more than the younger women I know because the culture promoted this competition more fiercely when I was young.Dating can be a way to revel in the moment; I encourage it to be viewed that way, at least initially.So, if you are a straight, cis man over 50 interested in dating women, here are some critical feminist don’ts for you.”, upon expressing interest in a boy during my youth.Girls were programmed to try desperately to be the most attractive girl around; we were taught that this made us more desirable to men, supposedly, and thus to society.I entered college in the fall of 1975 and graduated spring of 1980.